Kissing: 6 Things You've Wanted to Know but Are Too Afraid to Ask
Dating & Relationships

Kissing: 6 Things You've Wanted to Know but Are Too Afraid to Ask

Sherri & Reuben Johnson
Brand Specialists & Pleasure Activists

Ah, kissing! Such a simple yet profound expression of affection and connection! It's amazing how the simple act of pressing your lips against another's can unlock a world of emotions, intimacy, and pleasure. There's an undeniable power in the meeting of lips, where a single kiss has the ability to ignite passion, convey love, and create a profound sense of connection.

But did you know that this beautifully transformative human experience can also enhance our well-being in other ways? For example, when you engage in a passionate kiss, your body releases feel-good hormones like oxytocin, dopamine, and serotonin, promoting a sense of happiness and bonding. This surge of hormones can uplift your mood and strengthen emotional bonds with your partner. Kissing can also be a form of stress relief, as it helps reduce cortisol levels and provides a moment of escape from daily pressures.

In addition to its numerous benefits, the seemingly effortless act of kissing never ceases to captivate our curiosity. Despite being one of life's oldest and most cherished pleasures, it's fascinating to see how many questions people still have about it. So, on this International Day of Kissing, let's dive in and discover answers to some of the world's most searched questions about this delightful expression of affection!

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๐Ÿ‘€ Does kissing come naturally?

Yes, and no! Kissing is a natural instinct that has been part of human culture for centuries and often comes naturally as a way to express affection, intimacy, and desire. That being said, it's important to acknowledge that it doesn't always feel natural right from the start. For some folks, especially those who haven't experienced it before, kissing may initially feel unfamiliar or even a bit awkward.ย 

The good news is that, like any skill, kissing does get easier and will feel more natural with practice, especially when there's a strong desire and emotional connection between individuals. So, don't worry if you're a little unsure at first โ€“ with time and experience, you'll find your rhythm and discover what feels right for you.

๐Ÿ’‹ Quick Tip: Relax, be present in the moment, and let your instincts guide you!ย 

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๐Ÿค” Should you ask before kissing?

Absolutely! But every relationship is unique, and the way you ask for a kiss may vary.

During the early stages of a relationship, direct communication is your best bet. Before going in for that epic kiss, it's a good idea to make sure the other person is comfortable and just as eager to share in an intimate moment with you. Keep an eye out for verbal and non-verbal cues, like an excited smile, leaning in closer, or even a playful nudge.

If you're not quite sure youโ€™re getting the green light, the best approach is to ask. You can say something like, 'I'd really like to kiss you right now, is that okay?' or 'I really wanna kiss you, would that be cool with you?' or 'I've wanted to kiss you all night, how are you feeling?' This not only shows respect for their boundaries but also creates an opportunity for open communication and building trust.

In longer-term relationships, it's equally important to continue prioritizing consent and communication. While you may have been kissing for a hot minute, people's comfort levels can evolve, so itโ€™s a good idea to check-in with your partner regularly.ย 

๐Ÿ’‹ Quick Tip: The important thing to remember is to keep the lines of communication open. The goal is to create a loving and safe space where everyone feels comfortable expressing their needs and desires, regardless of how long youโ€™ve been together.

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๐Ÿคค What should kissing feel like?

Ultimately, the experience of kissing should be a pleasurable shared moment of intimacy between you and your partner. When it comes to physical sensations, however, there is no one-size-fits-all answer. Kissing can feel different for different people, and it can vary depending on the context and the level of connection between individuals. It might be tender, passionate, playful, or a combination of sensations.

Kissing can often involve the interplay of lips, tongues, and sometimes hands, creating a sensual and intimate experience. Some people enjoy a wetter kiss, with more saliva exchanged, while others prefer a drier kiss.ย 

Teeth can also play a role in kissing. For some, gentle grazing or light nibbling on the lips can add a playful and teasing element to the experience. But everyone has different preferences when it comes to teeth involvement, so be mindful and considerate of your partner's comfort and boundaries.

๐Ÿ’‹ Quick Tip: Openly discuss your desires with your partner, be attentive and listen to their cues, and don't be afraid to experiment and explore to find what brings the most pleasure.

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๐Ÿ“ข Should kissing make noise?

Kissing is a personal and unique expression of affection, and it can sometimes involve sounds that add to the experience. Some people enjoy the intimacy and sensuality of hearing subtle sounds during a kiss, like soft smacking or gentle moans. These sounds can enhance the overall pleasure and create a deeper sense of connection.ย 

However, it's important to note that not everyone feels the same way. Some folks may prefer quieter kisses, finding the silence just as intimate and enjoyable.ย 

๐Ÿ’‹ Quick Tip: Remember, like many other aspects of kissing, there is no right or wrong answer when it comes to the sound of kissing. So, lean into finding what works best for each unique connection. If you're concerned about certain sounds, like slurping, get creative and donโ€™t be afraid to explore different techniques until you find a style that feels right for each of you.ย 

Speaking of slurping, did you know that kissing can burn calories? While it may not be a suitable workout, it does feel kinda sweet to know that a passionate kiss can burn around 2-3 calories per minute.๐Ÿ˜‹

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โฑ๏ธ How long should kissing last?

Thankfully, there are no strict rules or time limits for how long you should savor a moment โ€“ itโ€™s completely up to you! The beauty of kissing lies in the freedom to explore and create your own rhythm, so whether it's a brief peck or an extended make-out session, let your instincts and chemistry guide you.

๐Ÿ’‹Quick Tip: Some of the most memorable kisses are the ones that leave you both wanting more!

Did you know that the longest continuous kiss on record lasted a whopping 58 hours, 35 minutes, and 58 seconds? ๐Ÿ˜ฒ

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๐Ÿคฐ Can kissing get you pregnant?

Ah, the classic question! Can kissing get you pregnant? It's a perfect example of why comprehensive sex education is so important. By understanding the facts about reproductive health, we can dispel any uncertainties. So, let's clear things up: kissing alone won't lead to pregnancy โ€“ yay! Pregnancy usually occurs through sexual intercourse when reproductive fluids are exchanged. So, unless you and your partner have some superhuman abilities, you can go ahead and enjoy those sweet kisses without worrying about starting a family. ๐Ÿ˜ฎโ€๐Ÿ’จ

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Well, that was fun! Now that we've armed ourselves with knowledge about the profound impact of a single kiss, the importance of open communication and enthusiastic consent, and the diverse range of physical sensations we might experience, we're ready to fully savor the moment and embrace not just this holiday, but every day that follows!๐Ÿ˜˜

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Sherri & Reuben Johnson
Brand Specialists & Pleasure Activists